
Surviving Changes Podcast
Surviving Changes Podcast
My Brother's Coked-Up Friend Accidentally Changed My Life
Have you ever realized your harshest critic is staring back at you in the mirror? This raw, unfiltered episode explores my unexpected journey to self-love after facing betrayal, false accusations, and twelve years of wandering the world with nothing but a backpack and faith.
The turning point came from the most unlikely source - the very person trying to destroy me. While working on Roster Runner, a project I poured myself into, I apologized profusely to Chris (my brother's friend who later filed false charges against me) for not accomplishing enough. His response changed everything: "Don't worry, no one can beat you up more than you beat yourself." This brutal truth forced me to confront my self-destructive patterns. Why was I continuing to harm myself when others had already caused enough damage?
My transformation didn't come from expensive skincare or filters (though my iPhone settings help!). The real change happened during eighteen months away from social media, dedicated entirely to healing. Now when people comment that I look better than I did twelve years ago despite everything I've endured, I know it's because I've broken the cycle of self-criticism. I wake up loving myself each morning, acknowledging my journey, and refusing to be my own enemy anymore. I recognize past mistakes but focus on fixing what I can in the present.
If you take one thing from this episode, let it be this: love yourself today and every day. You've been with yourself through everything - you deserve your own kindness more than anyone else's. What might change if you decided to become your own strongest ally instead of your worst critic?
PS this was actually a TikTok post that I thought fit here too.
Hey, there you guys. It's Heidi. I've got some stuff to do today so I'm not going to be doing a bunch of this, but I want to talk to you really quick about the power of self-love and why you need to make sure that you do it and take care of yourself every single day, every minute of every day. So there's been a lot of people that know what they and others put me through and they still filter back in, acting like they don't know, um, and say well, heidi, you look, you look like you, um, feel better and you look better than you did when you left 12 years ago. And you've been through a lot. You've literally been around the world with the backpack, yeah and um, your bible and nothing else. No, support, nothing, just a lot of faith that entire time. So how do you look better now? That doesn't. How does that work? And so, real quick, I want to thank do you remember the son of a bitch?
Speaker 1:If you've been following the podcast, you know who Chris is. Chris is the little piece of shit that is my brother's friend, part of all the little gang stalkers that filed the false auto theft on me. Sorry, it makes my head just spin. I can't wait to see you again. Chris, can't wait to see you again. But I do want to thank you for this one thing. I'm sure that you're watching, and Leslie, I saw you watching too. Tell Tony she's going to prison. Funny, who comes out of the woodwork, right? But so anyway, that son of a bitch, one of the days when I was working on Roster Runner and that actually mattered to me a little bit at the time because it was a generational opportunity I, I saw what was going on, and so he was off doing his coke, hanging at the stripper, um things, and all of that, and me, in typical heidi fashion. Uh, when he came back, I was disappointed myself. I'm like chris, I'm so fucking sorry I didn't get this much done, blah, blah, blah. And he laughed. This guy that was actively working to hurt me, discredit me, get me off myself if they got lucky, right, file those false charges, all of that stuff. This guy looked at me and said Heidi, don't worry, no one can beat you up more than you beat yourself. Don't worry, no one can beat you up more than you beat yourself. So I spent a lot of time thinking about that. Really, this gross ass group, um, finally has been around enough to know that, no matter what they do to me, I'm still gonna do more to me. That's ridiculous, and so, um, it changed a lot, and so what you're seeing might be a lot of primer, might be a lot of Bondo, it might be.
Speaker 1:I got a very good iPhone with great settings. Um, and enhancement features could be all of the face creams I've used, could be the year and a half I spent off of social media taking care of myself, but it's mostly. I wake up every morning loving myself. I know what I've been through. Are you kidding me? Why would I be my own worst enemy? I don't know why I did it before, probably because I was trained to do it. But don't be trained to do it. You know exactly what you've been through. You've been with yourself the whole time, the things that you've not done correctly, fixing the best you can now, and I sleep very good at night with myself, and so love yourself, please. If you don't do anything else today, love yourself, okay, fucking chickens.